Dear Friends, Drodzy Przyjaciele, Cari Amici,
I was having dinner with a circle of friends the other night and we were engaged in an intense conversation about how society has placed such a huge emphasis on Physical Appearance and the stress it puts on those who feel they have to live up to such perfectionist standards, particularly on young girls. There are so many stories of bullying and teasing of young people who are driven to self-harm, and even suicide, because of these insane and cruel attitudes and pressures.
Over the years in my work with the elderly I have seen that even when people are in their 70’s, 80’s and 90’s, it is shocking how many (especially women) are upset, ashamed or embarrassed when they have to be weighed for any reason. Even little old ladies who weigh 110 pounds are worried if they are up one pound from the previous month. I am not exaggerating here. This has really pushed me to keep Conscious of my own attitude and to be rigorously honest about whether or not I am applying that pressure on myself or not. Because if I am, then I am also contributing to an attitude of society that I deeply disagree with.
We all made a commitment that we would try for one week to not put one drop of pressure on ourselves or anyone in our family, or anyone we encounter to be anything other than 100% As Is!
At one point in the conversation I said, “When I die, I don’t think God is going to ask me how much I weighed on Earth or what Brand of clothing I wore.” Then another woman responded with such a Lighthearted Kindness and Laugh and said “You are right!… I think He is going to say: “You Look Lovely Today!”
Honestly I cannot get those happy words out of my mind and heart. I keep imagining God saying that to me Today and Every Day. Those words contain in them the kind of Affection, Acceptance, Respect and Love that we all so deeply want. Now I have made it part of my own Conscious effort to see Loveliness and to Mention it, to Acknowledge it. I am Consciously paying a compliment to the Sky for being Beautiful, to the Moon for Lighting up the Night, to the Train that rumbles by my home, to the Cashier at the grocery store, the people I meet each morning at the Post Office, to my Co-Workers, and Clients, to You, my Friends around the world.
What a difference we could make if we all said this to one person every day, and said it with love from our hearts, as I do to you, Today:
You Look Lovely Today! Wyglądasz ślicznie Dziś! Sei Bellissima Oggi !
With love and respect, Z Miłością i Zaangażowaniem, Con Amore e Impegno,
Gabriel Orino Marie
* For those of you who may not know, I have published a series of three books that tell the story of my recovery and healing from profoundly intense physical, sexual and spiritual abuse. These books have dozens of paintings that I did during my process and those paintings are a core form of communication I used in my Healing. These books are available on Amazon. I hope you will read them and pass them on to others!
This White House (Book One), Going Sane (Book Two) and A Spectacular Dawn (Book Three)